To Play or Not To Play

We recently had a key player on our college basketball program suspended from the team. He was out for unknown reasons for one game, which we lost, and came back the next game and helped us win. Now he has been dismissed from the team altogether.

The original info was that he had sent a threatening text message to a female that he was in an off and on relationship with. Around Valentines Day the young lady has waited for him till 3:00 in the morning and he hadn't shown. She then trashed his apartment which I assume resulted in the threatening text message. She took the message to campus security and filed a complaint indicated that she didn't want any action taken, but for someone to talk to him about his behavior.???

 The school says there is an ongoing investigation going on with player which could be the reason for the dismissal but they cannot comment. In the meantime the fact that the player does have some anger management problems have been identified in the past.

 My problem with this situation is two fold. First, the relationship with the young woman is a personal matter. Had the threat not been placed in text would it have been brought up. It appears that the young women was very upset and even admitted to messing up his apartment when he didn't come to meet her. People are now saying that he should have just let it go, but that is easier said than done, particularly when we are talking about personal relationships and young people. Who hasn't said harsh words during a stressful encounter. Nevertheless what does this have do with basketball? We're there team rules broken? Is there a morality cause for dealing with girlfriends or the opposite sex?

It appears that there is no privacy anymore. You can no longer have an argument with a female, whether in a relationship or not, which can not be construed as abusive or having the "potential" of being abusive. In this case my second point is this. If the dismissal was the result of this incident, shouldn't the college be concerned with "counseling" the player versus the ultimate "punishment" of removing him from the team, and sending him down a much darker path for the future. 

There may be more to the story that will come to light but it appears that there will be no winners based on the current situation.